Is it possible for the sexes to hear each other without saying, “My powerlessness is greater than your powerlessness”? P. xx
The fundamental feminist false assumption: Female powerlessness meant male power. P .xxi
Instead of understanding male powerlessness we had come to understand only the female experience of male power. P. xxii
It took me seventeen years to understand that men do not become more loveable until they are understood. P. xxii
Men tuned into women but not tuned into their own hurts usually retained the attitude that women needed special protection. P. xxii
Strict ideology is for women what macho is for men. P. xxiii
Confessing feelings that risk rejection is genuine vulnerability. P. xxvi
Women’s vulnerability confessing their desire to see men as a success object is matched by men’s confession of compulsiveness of sexual desire for women. P. xxvi
Each theme in this book evolved from examination of actual behavior as opposed to claimed behavior. P. xxx
Women’s desires were an important ingredient in determining why men are the way they are. P. xxxi